Progress Paralysis Part II – How to Move Beyond Asking the Mind for Answers

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For Progress Paralysis, Part I, click here
Are you ready to release old patterns and limitations?
Ready to release your ego grip of “being right”?
Are you ready to allow the flow of abundance and ease into your life?
On my spiritual journey, I have been searching for this relief and release. For so long, I was dealing with mastering the mind, believing all the answers lie hidden within it. After much work, much progress but a yearning for more, my meanderings led to me The Release Technique.
Read the summary of my spiritual journey with my mind below and watch the video at the end for an example of The Release Technique, which is helping me move beyond the mind, releasing old patterns and surrendering it all to Beingness.

1. We find it isn’t working to ask only the mind for answers.

Why is this?
The mind holds information. It takes in input and gives us output. It can help us tie that information together, to present it in various formations, but it is still limited to what we’ve put in it.
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We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”
-Albert Einstein
 
If we’re looking for an infusion of fresh energy, of perspective shifts, we can thank the mind for its help, but  move beyond it. There are other guides within our bodies and selves there to help us.

So here we learn: The mind is helpful in remembering things, regurgitating information. If we want a fresh perspective, however, we need to move beyond it.

2. We find it’s not working to merely analyze our mind.
Why is this?
I have been the queen of analysis. I could tell you what’s wrong with me, why it’s wrong, where it originated and what I should do to get past it. Guess what? It was a total avoidance technique. I was blocking out help from others, because I thought I already knew all there was to know. If analysis, if determining the root cause is the end all be all, then why was I still struggling with those things? I was still anxious and worried, still had a hard time relaxing and not worrying about what others thought of me. Analysis may help to a point, but then it becomes easy to disengage. To get so wrapped up in your own mind that you find you may have done very little about it. It may even seem like you’ve been busy working on it because you’ve simply been thinking about it all the time.

So here we learn: It’s not enough to just think about your problems in a detached way, it requires engaged action.

3. We find it’s not working to manipulate our mind. 
Why is this?
To introduce a fresh perspective, and take engaged action, we may delve into affirmations or work on injecting our brain with positive thinking. It’s helpful to have mantras and affirmations, to introduce new concepts to our minds, to fold them within our beings. Have you ever said an affirmation, though, and felt resistance? Upon feeling resistance, did it bring up guilt? You want the affirmation to work, but you don’t believe it. You’re stuck because saying the thing that’s supposed to save you actually makes you feel worse. We then stuff our feelings back down and create even more guilt about having these feelings.

So here we learn: It’s not enough to simply inject out brains with outside thinking to promote positivity, we need to release the feelings that keep us stuck.
 
Try this exercise: Throughout the day, observe your mind, emotions, and your whole being. On an average day, how often do you feel in conflict with yourself? How often do you feel conflicting desires or confusion? How often do you feel weighed down by “shoulds” and “should not”s?
If you’re anything like me, you may become overwhelmed with the near-constant presence of these things.
If I was relaxing, I should have been being productive. I felt worthless.
If I was productive, I wished I could have been relaxing. I felt burdened.
If I challenged myself in trying something new, I felt both proud and freaked out.
I just wanted to feel better.
Everything I did seemed to warrant some resistance from me. I was my own helicopter parent chasing after my inner child going “NO! Don’t touch that!” “Ahh don’t play with that, that’s dangerous!” “No, no, that knife is too sharp!” I almost felt I couldn’t do anything “right”. I couldn’t please myself. And by needing to constantly perform to find a way to please myself, I was blocking out a LOT of love. I was making my love entirely conditional.
And finally, I realized I needed to release my grip on “being right”, on “having all the answers” in order to relax into allowing them. I was so desperate for control, to keep myself safe, that the desperation was blocking out the experience of letting it all in. This experience was a big ego shift for me. I was finally ready to release being right, ready to release the idea that my ego had worth based on having all the answers. I also realized I had been mistaking my ego for me, for who I truly was.
There are many journeys one might take upon reaching this place. My journey took me toward something called The Release Technique. The technique is totally simple, not an ego stimulant or an intellectual breakthrough. It’s a technique that you do, not simply think about. It’s not about analysis, or getting it right, it’s about safely expressing all those things you’ve been holding in. By releasing them, you are able to move them up and out. When you move them up and out, you make room for your true self, your true expression. You move beyond your attachments and aversions. You move beyond your fear of having or not having. You enter the space of Beingness.
Have you been searching for something to help you move past your ego and into your true self?
* Click here for a video in which I demo The Release Technique. See if it resonates with you.
Have another technique or process you’d like to share to help others? Please contact me here or comment below.
*If you feel resistance to this method, if you feel it’s TOO easy or frustratingly simple, that’s ok! I knew about the technique for several years before I chose to try it. I reached the place that I described above, where I was willing to accept that I no longer needed to shield my ego, that I didn’t have all the answers, that I was ready to let go of all my old patterns. Everyone’s different and your journey may lead you to an entirely different place. Trust that you’re on the exact right path for where you, personally, need to be.
*If you feel resistance to this method, if you feel it’s TOO easy or frustratingly simple, that’s ok! I knew about the technique for several years before I chose to try it. I reached the place that I described above, where I was willing to accept that I no longer needed to shield my ego, that I didn’t have all the answers, that I was ready to let go of all my old patterns. Everyone’s different and your journey may lead you to an entirely different place. Trust that you’re on the exact right path for where you, personally, need to be.
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